CDs of Live Classes by David Richo

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$6 for one set of CDs  —  $11 for 2-3 sets $16 for 4-5 sets — $20 for 6 sets or more

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12 LECTURES $75  
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A very positive and deeply-moving look at our early needs and how their fulfillment— or lack thereof— affects our ability to love effectively in adult life. We notice our false self (what others wanted us to be) and our true self (who we really are). How can we now live in accord with our truest needs and feelings? How can we give up trying to get from other adults now what we missed out on in childhood? How can we let go the losses and hurts of the past and so get on with life in self-nurturant ways? Our human needs are for attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing us to be who we are. They are requirements in early life, enrichments in adult relationships, and gifts in spiritual maturity. We can grow in self-esteem through how we handle what happens in our daily life and in our intimate connections. Then childhood forces no longer dictate adult choices. We learn to grieve— and even bless— the past so that we can really live in the present.


12 LECTURES $75  
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This most popular class is about:

  • What intimacy really involves and how to know we love or are loved
  • The phases of relating: romance, conflict, commitment
  • How to tell if  we are cut out for close intimate relating
  • What fears of abandonment and engulfment are and how to deal with them
  • How to distinguish true anger from manipulation and abuse
  • How to maintain personal boundaries and self-respect
  • How to distinguish caring / caretaking, healthy conflict / stressful drama
  • What happens when romance or sex becomes addiction
  • How to recognize ourselves and our partners as introverts or extraverts
  • How to let go of ego so that mutual love can flourish
  • How to address, process, and resolve conflicts
  • How to handle hurt without retaliating
  • How to deal with fear, jealousy, infidelity, disillusionment, and abuse
  • How to know when it is time for a major change or an ending
  • How to be mindful, compassionate, and fearlessly loving while living through the complex challenges of daily relationships


12 LECTURES $75  
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Our lively energy is inhibited by fear and we are so often needlessly on the defensive. What are the origins and meanings of our fears, panic attacks, and phobias? We notice especially our fears of self-disclosure, of others’ feelings, of giving/receiving, of comings/goings, of aloneness or intimacy. We peer into the Void: that terrifying personal underworld where nothing works and nothing seems to matter. We learn how to handle panic attacks. We notice how fear debits our lively energy and we find ways to refresh it. We explore how guilt and shame can hurt or help us. We find ways to free ourselves from the grip of fear through the “triple A technique”: admit we are afraid, allow ourselves to feel it fully, and act so that it does not stop or drive us. We use affirmations that open the courage in our hearts and liberate us from our many fears. We may always feel fear but we are no longer fear-based.


12 LECTURES $75  
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We all have healthy responses and inclinations inside us. Some of these have become distorted or thwarted. We do not have to live at the mercy of our past or of our habitual beliefs. We can activate ourselves in new ways. Here is a full exploration of what it means to be a psychologically healthy adult both personally and in relationships. We build self-esteem, become more expressive of our needs, beliefs, and feelings, and we see how much we have going for us as unique individuals. Health is not a goal; it is in us and waits to be released. Practical techniques are presented in accessible and entertaining ways. We learn how to raise our self-esteem, become more assertive, be clear about our feelings and express them in healthy ways. We learn how to be ourselves and still be committed to others. We really can be free of anxiety and full of enthusiasm.


12 LECTURES $75  
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Our myth is the driving force—usually unconscious—that designs our choices in life. Are we living the myth of the hero, the victim, the winner, the loser? Are we living an inherited myth or one that is unique to us? Are we reinventing ourselves or simply managing our daily routine? How can we know ourselves well enough to find the career and relationships that fit for us? How can we notice the family blessings and curses that still follow us? How can we discern the call of an inner voice?

Our dreams at night reflect our personal myth and our journey through life. We explore: why dreams are so confusing, techniques on how to remember dreams and understand their messages, especially recurrent dreams. We use our active imagination to amplify dream themes, to appreciate personal and archetypal symbols, and to find our destiny and walk to it upright rather than be dragged to it. We see the connection between dreams, synchronicity, and astrology. We learn how dreams can help us make decisions.


12 LECTURES $75  
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The phases of our life correspond to those of an heroic journey: separation from the familiar, a long series of struggles, and a return to where we began with gifts to share. A hero is one who has lived through pain and been transformed by it. We are all heroes on our way home. Our challenge is to find our life purpose and make it a gift to the world. We learn how to recognize and move on a vision quest. We find out who are and have been our assisting and afflicting forces along our life path. Who are our guides? How do animals help us? What are our important thresholds in life and how do they threaten us? How can crisis equip us rather than cripple us? What is our here and now initiation and how are we able to face it? How can transitions be serene no matter what is going on around us?

12 LECTURES $75  
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We integrate mythology, psychology, and spirituality to evoke the forces of wholeness in ourselves. We combine western and Buddhist perspectives on compassion and enlightenment. We learn to go beyond our personal story and find the spiritual ground of our existence. This is trusting the ultimate design of our destiny despite the here and now display of our predicament! Using metaphors, examples, and myths, both western and eastern, we find the spiritual program of our life. How does karma fit in? What are the archetypes that await integration in us? How do we meet and deal with the trickster energy that gives our ego its comeuppance? How do we discover divinity in ourselves and release the riches of love that are in us and for which the world has been waiting?

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Synchronicity is the meaningful coincidence or connection of events or relationships that can influence the course of our life. We meet those who teach us who we are and what we can be. We face our destiny and participate in it rather than fall into a fate that may hurt us. As we respond to the messages in synchronicity, awkward jolts become graceful transitions and stops become steps. In this series we also explore the meaning of spiritual growth. We look at how religion has figured into our lives. We look at ways to recover from any negative impact it may have or have had. We look at how we can find value in religious archetypes and how they can help us enrich our spirituality. The series ends with affirmations to raise our self-esteem and advance in spiritual consciousness.

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The Jungian archetype of the Shadow includes all that we abhor about ourselves and all the wonderful potential that we doubt or deny we have. We project these negativities onto others as strong dislike and project our positive potential as admiration. We can re-member and restore these capacities to our psyches. We explore our dark side as a source of creativity and untapped potential. How does our dark side manifest, go into hiding, and emerge to hurt or liberate us? What is evil and how do we protect ourselves from it? What is the shadow in our family, relationships, religion, and in the world? We learn ways to make friends with our shadow both positive and negative so that our lost life can be restored and renewed. Inner foes become allies; dark corners within us become archways of light. Through them we find our gifts and our destiny.


8 LECTURES $50   
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Our ego is functional when it helps us live happily and effectively. It becomes neurotic when it is overtaken by fear or desire, especially the fear of love or the desire for more and more. We can let go of these painful and self-defeating habits so that we can relate with authentic intimacy. We learn to see ego as the F.A.C.E. we are afraid to lose: fear, attachment, control, and entitlement to special treatment. We let go of what is ending and take hold of what is arising. We learn to accept the conditions of existence: things change and end; things are not always fair; not everyone loves us; suffering is part of life; things do not always go according to our plans; and anything can happen to anyone. We find a way to say yes to these and still be strong and safe in the world.

The following sets of CDs are available directly from the publishers:

Making Love Last:  How to Sustain Intimacy and Nurture Connection Set of 3 CD’s

This is a lively one-day workshop on relationship issues given by David Richo at Spirit Rock Retreat Center in California. Some of the topics are:

  • What is love and how it can endure?
  • What are our fears of intimacy and commitment and how can we work on them?
  • How can we communicate with mindfulness and loving-kindness?
  • How can we resolve our conflicts, without our egos getting in the way?
  • How does our early life affect our adult relationships?
  • What are the natural phases in a relationship?
  • How can we grieve the ending of a relationship and move on, free of resentment or expectation?

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How to Be an Adult in Faith and Spirituality
How to Be an Adult in Faith and Spirituality

Four CDs

In this live presentation of a retreat at Spirit Rock Buddhist Retreat Center, David Richo provides a detailed and straightforward vision of what faith and spirituality can look like in adult consciousness.

Price $16.95  Order from Paulist Press

How to Be an Adult in Relationships 
Book on CDs read by author  Shambhala Press — 8 CDs, 9 hours, $69.95

Click here to order throughShambhala Books “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says David Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness,  How to Be an Adult in Relationships  explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

  1. Attention  to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
  2. Acceptance  of ourselves and others just as we are.
  3. Appreciation  of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
  4. Affection  shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
  5. Allowing  life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts—what Richo calls the five A’s—form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A’s, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

Embracing The Shadow: Discovering The Hidden Riches In Our Relationships
(Set of 4 CD’s, Shambhala, 2013

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embracing-the-shadow-cd-coverMost of us have noticed that our shadow side comes out in relationships as nowhere else. We can work with our unskillful tendencies toward one another. We can tame our hurtful words and retaliatory impulses. We can work with them creatively and grow because of them. We then notice our projections onto one another and withdraw them. Our dark side also includes many positive qualities that are hidden even from ourselves. We can find the gifts we might not yet have dared to recognize or show. Our befriending of our positive and negative shadow sides makes true closeness possible. Working with the dark rather than in it lets the light of intimacy through.